The Free Advise Paradox!

It has been quite some time that I have written something for my always-thirsty blog, and here I am now quenching its thirst. I have been pondering on the way people advise people, and I somehow had the urge to colour my thoughts by penning them down. 

Most of us might have gone through that phase of life where we had to play the advise seeker role, regardless of the outcome the advise produced, if at all it was put in to play. But, has it ever occurred to you that most of the time you ending up on the giving end instead of the receiving end. “Glass Shatters”

Now that the glass has shattered, most of you might have realized that it is strikingly true that you have unknowingly been on the giving end. Well, let me keep the give and take thing aside and shed some more light on the way one pours his soul in giving an advise. I don’t mean to be sarcastic or rude to anyone here but then, soon, the glass will shatter.

Not all of the people come under this category, a category that I like to call “I-now-own-your-life”, that name speaks for itself, you ask the cult of this group for an advise, and you are in for a spin. Most of the advises that people of this group are based on the events of their lives, and in a way ill-logical, what are the odds that same advise will lead to ground breaking results? They give you advise and then follow up, they like to be kept posted on all the events henceforth, and they take utmost pleasure in dealing with your problems as if they are the ones going through it, and this endeavor they tend to slip away and starting digging the problems in their life and end up being on the receiving end. 

“Thank god-I am-not-going-through-this”, huh! This breed is one of my favourites. They listen to you; nod, and then, they listen more. No, they are not deaf and dumb; they are talking to themselves, elated inside with a sorry face on the outside. And, at the end of the feels trip they come up with something out of the box, that actually is shallow, and undulates your mind in a negative way for the lone fact that they have never been through it, and ergo have devised a subtle sorry line during your heart pouring session.

“Aah-could-you-keep-it-to-yourself?”, well these are the ones that play neutral, they neither give advise nor take it, they know there are slight chances of ending up on the ugly side either way- you give advise, you screw up others life- you take advise, you screw up your own. These have life of their own and are belligerent about dealing with it alone, regardless of the repercussions. 

“I-will-advise-you-anyway”, yes, these are the always blabbering ones. The ones who have seen it all, the “had been there done that” types. They have this arsenal, an arsenal full of- how do I put this delicately- CRAP. They somehow have this striking ability that makes them realize they are needed here, and they hop down to you, and well, there you are witnessing your faith in yourself and humanity plummeting as your ears are in for a feast.

Well, during the pursuit of finding the right advise, you either see the light at the end of the tunnel or you get hit by the train (read as future). Needless to say, only few of them actually work, and most of the time you just end up with nothing on your plate. You place your life in forfeit for what? Nothing

Most of you might ponder on the times that you have got the right advise and it actually changed the course of your path, but some part of you might have realized that had you not wavered during the tough times, and had been as strong as a nail, you would have actually paved a path for yourself- a better one. “Glass Shatters”

Since time immemorial, we human beings couldn’t suppress the oozing impulse to help another human being and that impulse was passionate and not to mention “gone are those times”, the clock has struck hard. Times have changed and so have homo-sapiens.

Now, bring in those advises about this write up let the glasses shatter!